March 6, 2025

Anger in Adolescence and Its Management: The Role of Parents

Adolescence is a period of intense biological and emotional changes. Teenagers must navigate these transitions, and anger is a natural response to them. Adolescents, who are in the process of shaping their identity, may feel anger as a reaction to uncertainties, social or academic pressures, or conflicts with family and peers. Anger serves as a way for teenagers to process their own changes and challenges and to understand themselves better. However, managing anger can be difficult for both adolescents and their parents.

The Role of Parents in Anger Management

The expression of anger within the family is particularly significant, as it affects not only the individual displaying anger but also those around them. Adolescents often imitate the behavior they observe in their parents, whether it involves healthy anger management or unhealthy reactions (such as yelling, violence, or avoidance). Therefore, it is important to recognize that parental responses to anger influence how children will learn to express their own emotions. Parents who demonstrate understanding, patience, and a willingness to communicate help teenagers manage their emotions in a healthy way. Parental support, open communication, and the creation of a safe environment for emotional expression can reduce tension and lead to a more productive release of anger.

Guidance for Healthy Emotional Management

Developing strategies for healthy anger management is crucial. Parents can teach their children to recognize the early signs of anger and apply techniques for de-escalation, such as deep breathing or temporarily stepping away from a situation when emotions become overwhelming. Offering alternative ways to release anger, such as physical exercise or engaging in creative activities, can help teenagers regulate their emotions more effectively.

When a teenager’s anger is intense, it is not the right moment for discussion. In such cases, the best approach is to remain calm and postpone the conversation until emotions have settled. Understanding emotions is important, but parents should also remain firm in setting boundaries, as anger does not justify aggressive or destructive behavior. Additionally, ensuring safety for everyone involved during moments of high tension is crucial.

When Should We Seek Professional Help?

If anger becomes extreme or poses a risk to a teenager’s mental health, seeking help from a mental health professional is necessary. For example, a teenager who refuses to attend school may be expressing anger or frustration due to social pressures, anxiety, or significant emotional distress. Furthermore, if a teenager exhibits aggression or behavioral issues, they may be experiencing bullying from peers. In such cases, psychological support can help address these emotions and uncover the root causes of anger, providing teenagers with tools to manage their feelings more effectively.

Where Can I Seek Help?

  • For guidance on how to approach teenagers and help them manage anger: 11525
  • For issues related to violence and aggression in children and adolescents: 10306

The Strength of Family in Difficult Times

Challenging moments are inevitable, but they can also serve as opportunities to strengthen family bonds. Support, understanding, and acceptance are among the most valuable “gifts” children can receive. Every child is unique and requires a different approach depending on their personality. Some children may need more hugs and family time, while others may prefer solitude or spending time with friends. Through good communication, honesty, and love, the holiday season—and any difficult period—can remain a time of hope and renewal, even in the most challenging circumstances.

Where Can I Seek Help?

  • For guidance on how to approach children during difficult family periods: 11525
  • To talk about grief and mourning with children: Merimna 210 6463622
  • For counseling on how adults can manage stressful situations: 10306

References

  • Strigaris, A. (2020). How to Talk to Children About Difficult Situations During the Holiday Season. Psychology and Child Publications.
  • Hughes, D. (2011). How to Talk So Teens Will Listen and Listen So Teens Will Talk. HarperCollins.
  • Papalia, D. E., Wendkos Olds, S., & Duskin Feldman, R. (2018). Human Development. McGraw-Hill Education.