Vacations with grandparents

During summertime children get bored when their parents are away for work and do not spend time with them. Usually, grandparents suggest to take children with them on vacation in the countryside for a few days. Children usually enjoy that very much and want to go, while their parents find it a good idea.

What happens, though, when during the holidays the children complain, via telephone, to parents that their grandparents do not understand them or are strike with them or upon their return parents find it difficult to coordinate with their children because their grandparents have "spoiled" them?

Parents are puzzled, because they think that they are liable to the grandparents, because they spend time with their grandchildren and have taken care of them for a few days, do not want to make suggestions. At other times, they become tight towards grandmother or grandfather, when the latter follow their own way, based on traditional values ​​nurturing children or when the domintant mentality is to keep them happy by spoiling them.

Which way is the most effective way with dealing with such situation?

The golden rule is the proper communication between parents, grandparents and children. It would be useful if parents could reach the grandparents in an understanding way and explain to them how they do things at home. it is important during the holidays, to assign to grandparents along with children some rules, which will be followed by children. Parents, of course, need to ensure that grandparents will support them in this effort.